Morning:
I had originally planned on posting yesterday afternoon, but after being a bit backed up in work, things just didn't go as smoothly as I had planned. It's kinda good though, that I didn't post yesterday though, because I would probably have dedicated it solely to a meaningless, convoluted, conversation that I had with someone yesterday. I feel the need to at least summarize my points on the situation for two reasons: 1. This is my blog, lol & 2. I may actually want to refer back to my thoughts later on down the road:
Rants & Raves:
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Clearly dealing with principalities, I feel like when you are dating someone, that that should be the only person you devote your quality time to. I don't denounce having other's involved in your life, but my main focus for taking any friendship to the dating status is purely for future prosperity, i.e. marriage. So therefore, I think that it is absoutely necessary to maintain that dating status with just one person, and not date around. Unfortunately my counterpart in the discussion feels that, (paraphrasing) - It's ok to date around because there is no commitment, and there is no obilgation to the person. I honestly think she and I just have differing opinions about the word.....Kinda funny though, how an intangible word like dating can cause such an uproar, just because we allow it to have totally different meanings. Evidently, she doesn't hold the word "dating" on as high a stature as I do, which is all well and good........but I just can't and will no do it. Because, by being a good & caring individual (male), dating around can give way to many adverse effects, no matter how you define the word. I won't go into deep discussion about it, but I have to agree with WC in saying that.....gold diggers aren't the problem, because you can spot them a mile away.....but its the everyday, intelligent woman, who dates around who you get caught up with. A man's goal is in essense to try and win the heart of a woman, so we do what is necessary in order to do that. If she is dating around, then that makes the job even more harder, so you have to do even more.......meanwhile, the 4 or 5 other people she is dating are doing the same thing, whether it's money or not, time or not. So all in all, she benifits........yet she isn't a gold digger. I just want one woman...who wants one man. When was the last time you have seen women going through the issues men face just to get into a committed relationship? Go figure. Oh well, another days journey.
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I dropped the saturday class and added the thursday night Strategic Marketing class to my schedule, so needless to say I was in class last night. How about I walk into class and who do I see.....but VLG (Destination Known), lol. This class seems like its going to be the more challenging of the two. We have more cases, even though they are group case studies, but cases none the less. I also met Karen last night. She works at Lockheed Martin, which is where I definitely want to make a career (hopefully I can come back to this post years from now, and see if it truly worked out). She mentioned that she would inform me on job openings as soon as she heard and before they went on the net, so I'm gonna pray on this one real hard, lol. Class got out early, so I couldn't complain. I went to the student center, where the Sigma's had just finished their probate show......the atmosphere didn't seem as conducive as to what I had experienced in my undergrad days, but it was cool. I met to many folx from WGA though. All the Zetas, this guy from WGA, so I had hurry and get the heck up outta there. About the only odd thing about the night was this "woman" who was maybe 23 or so, who approached me and began talking about greek life ( I had on nalia so it was ok). She isn't greek, but she just went on rambling about who she knew, and if I knew them, and this that and the other....she was kinda cute, but not my type at all. Well back to the Mainframe. I want to get as much done today as I can to avoid any interruptions on Monday. Yall have a blessed weekend, as I will try to.........sleeeeep ummmmmm (Homer J. Simpson).
"Character is defined as what you do when no one else is watching"
5 comments:
I agree with your counterpart. I see absolutely nothing wrong with dating several people. You need to date them all to see who is more compatible and who best meets your standards. When all of that is figured out, then you begin to date exclusively because you can see yourself having a future with that particular person.
Ashley, you as well as my counterpart are entitled to your own opinions, and I'll respect them, although ain't no way possible will I agree with them due to the contents of the attached exerpt:
"But I have to agree with WC in saying that.....gold diggers aren't the problem, because you can spot them a mile away.....but its the everyday, intelligent woman, who dates around who you get caught up with. A man's goal is in essense to try and win the heart of a woman, so we do what is necessary in order to do that. If she is dating around, then that makes the job even more harder, so you have to do even more.......meanwhile, the 4 or 5 other people she is dating are doing the same thing, whether it's money or not, time or not. So all in all, she benifits........yet she isn't a gold digger. I just want one woman...who wants one man"
So your REAL issue is not dating multiple people--your issue is feeling slighted for having to do what a male is supposed to do. In these situations, many times all parties benefit. Whether it be money spent, knowledge added, contacts made, etc. There has been no guy that I have dated that didn't benefit from just being in my presence *not being horty torty, but inspiration comes when you're around inspired people*. So just say what you really think. As I said yesterday, your issue is with this non-classic gold digger ish, not whether or not people should only get to know one person at a time. Both sides always have competition, you just choose to focus on that competition and not the person you're supposedly interested in getting to know.
Anywho, thanks, Ash, I knew you understood.
KD, keep doing what you do. As I said yesterday, I agree to disagree. Have a great weekend! And I'm jealous that you got V in your class!
that competition = the fact that there MAY be competition
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