Make-Up

The original purpose of this post was to ask the simple guy question...why do some women wear so much make-up. Then I had to stop and really think about that question. Maybe it's deeper than the MAC or the Mary K. Maybe, just maybe, we all wear make-up....men and women.

Have you ever seen someone you know, post a picture online, and you think to yourself, that's not what she/he looks like in person? Or have you ever (ahem), met someone from an online service? You get to the mutually accepted location, only to find out that, the person you saw in the picture with the "cute as a button" smile, just ain't the person that waiting for you at the door. But you suffer, breakdown, and endure the date anyways......I think most of us have been there. Or a least those of us who have engaged in the online community at one point or another in life. Be it mutual interest groups, or dating services.

But what about YOU, or in this case, ME. Do we wear far too much makeup on a daily basis? Now see I can talk about makeup, because I'm comfortable enough in my manhood to realize the symbolism behind it, lol. How many times have we made up ourselves, in order to promote a false identity to someone else? I know I know, we all say "I'mma be me, and can't nobody make me be nothing else but me". But in reality, what if "being you" involves something that you're not. Too much for you? Ok, let me break it down for a second....

Have you ever been out on a date? Most people have. You spend countless hours getting jazzed up for the other person. You make sure the shirt fits the location. You make sure that the belt matches the shoes. You make sure the Armani is "just right". Then you head out the door, readily made up for your date. Now if that was the "make up" I was referring to, I'd be labeled as shallow and not in touch with normal life.....but see that the thing. That's not the make-up that I'm talking about. I'm talking about the make up that we put on when we get to the date. The way we make ourselves out to be something that we aren't. The way we go on and on about what jobs we have, about how in tune with politics we are, and how knowledgeable about random stuff in life we are. The date goes well, and the guy or girl goes their separate way having a readily made conception of the person they just went out with. Times goes by, and these made up dates continue to happen. Until one day....one day either he or she shows a personality trait that so totally inverse of the person you thought you knew. And it's at that point where you think to yourself, who is this made up person that I've been going out with. Perhaps he or she has been telling you that they enjoy traveling and seeing different places....yet you've been dating for months and not once have they mentioned taking a trip anywhere. Or perhaps the woman tell you how much she enjoys cooking new cuisines, but you started dating in January, and it's now Thanksgiving and she doesn't know the difference between collards and turnips. Or perhaps he has told you how much he enjoys day trading, yet he tells you that investing in Enron would have been a good things back in the day.

All I'm saying is that we need to start being transparent with one another, and allow God to lead us to the right people. The way I'm beginning to see it, is that if I put my faith in Him, he'll lead me to be around the right people, so that I don't have to tout myself as something that I'm not, in order to keep a person around.....but then again, should I even want to keep them around, if I can't be KJ?

In the words of DJ.....think on that for a minute.

God Bless
KJ